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Starting a New Job – Like Kindergarten all Over Again

Remember what it was like when you started kindergarten? Ok, maybe that’s a stretch for some of us, but how about when you started a new grade in school? Your body was full of nervous energy and you could hardly wait to start; yet you had no idea what to expect. Well starting a new job will bring back all of those fond memories in an awful hurry.

Starting a new job is not much different than starting school when you think about it. For a couple of weeks you’ll wonder whom you will meet and what you will wear, but what do you do when the first day actually comes?

Whenever you walk into a new work environment for the first time, smile. Be polite to every person you see along the way. Take the initiative to go up to people and introduce yourself. When you do this, look into their eyes and again, smile.

Once you have introduced yourself around, waste no time getting started. Ask your new boss or co-workers what you can do and when given a task for the day, go for it. Don’t be an over-achiever though. Remember it’s your new job not your old job, meaning, some policies may be different then before. If you have any doubt, ask questions. This will ensure the job not only gets done promptly, but properly as well.

Once your workday is done let everyone know how great it was being there and how you look forward to seeing them all the next day. This may sound like you are kissing a little backside, but if the worst thing said about you after the first day is, ‘That person is really nice,’ then you are doing ok.

Like mom used to say, “Before you know it you will have all kinds of new friends.” Mom is always right isn’t she? Just keep smiling, working, and asking questions and before you know it, your new job will feel as comfortable as an old pair of jeans that have been broken in for years.

Office Politics – Stuck Between a Boss and a Boss

You’ve done your best to keep to yourself and mind your Ps and Qs at work. Now you find yourself stuck between a boss and a boss, both trying to get you to come to their side and gang up on the other all due to a disagreement with the business. This is office politics at its best. My advice; don’t take sides!

Yes this can be extremely frustrating and you may even like one boss more than the other, but never forget, they are both your superiors. Taking one side over the other can cause nothing but harm for you in the future. Instead of picking a side, try to be the mediator.

Try to get the bosses to sit down with you and have a discussion about the issue. Let them go back and forth and simply act like a line judge at a tennis match and call foul when applicable. Listen to all points laid out and try to help come up with a solution that is best for everyone. Remind them that ultimately a sound business decision must be made and that personal feeling should be put aside.

Office politics can’t always be avoided, no matter how much you want too. However, by practicing the art of not taking sides, you can not only come off looking like the company hero, but you will save face with both of your bosses, which will make for a much nicer work environment for you, I guarantee it.

Office Politics – Don’t Take it Personally…

In a perfect world we would all get along and there would be no disagreement of any kind, but since the chances of that happening are about as good as you getting struck by lightning while cashing in your lottery ticket, there is unfortunately such a thing as office politics. Office politics usually boils down to simple disagreements between you and a co-worker, or worse yet, a figurehead. Sometimes it can be so frustrating you just want to scream at the top of your lungs and tell the other party just how wrong they are and how right you are. This won’t work!

Take it from me, when it comes to office politics, the trick to coming out smelling like a rose is to not take anything personally. There’s been many times where I just wanted to grab up the disagreeing party and shake them as hard as I can until they see the light, but I know this would not resolve a thing. Instead, I focus on what is most important for everyone, the business.

When you do butt heads with someone at your workplace, which you eventually will, try talking to them about what is ultimately best for the business. This way you and your office counterpart will avoid any meaningless chatter over what color is a personal favorite for the upcoming flyer and instead focus on what color is best for the business and ultimately all parties involved. Go over all the pros and cons, but always stick to business. It’s much easier for your office enemy to admit defeat if they think they are doing so to help the business.

This strategy keeps you on the right track and ensures the best decision is being made. Just remember, we are all human and if in your discussions you find that you are the one that needs to admit defeat, then east your humble pie and get on with business. Life is too short to waste on meaningless office politics.

Communication: Do You Understand What I’m Saying to You?

There’s always that one person at work who can’t seem to spit out what she wants to say. What should take one sentence eats up five minutes of your day, and the worst part is that you still don’t know what she means! It gets even trickier when that person is your boss. You may get a run-on email or cornered in the hall and must decipher something like this: “I’ve spoken to John Smith, and he has some suggestions about the ad copy that we sent over a few days ago. I didn’t know whether you had any ideas about how to…” What she really means is: “The client didn’t like our ad. We need to pitch another ad in two days. Get busy.”

Since you can’t exactly scream in frustration and demand that she stop dancing around her message, you’ll have to practice some techniques that are taught in couples counseling. Parrot back to her what you think she said. “What you’re saying is…” This gives her a chance to say “yes” or “no” and clear up any confusion. If you have absolutely no idea what she means, say so nicely. “I’m not sure I understand what you need from me. Do you need…?”

Now here’s the really hard part. Take a minute to consider whether you’re the one guilty of blathering. Is it possible? If, more than once a day, you’re interrupted before you get to the end of your “story” or someone asks you to clarify your statement, you may be a rambler. The solution? Stop trying to avoid conflict at any cost. Think about what your real message is, and then say it—without the fluffy filler.

The Worst Thing You Can Say at the Office

Are you an apologizer? Sure, when you accidentally eat someone else’s brown bag lunch or literally run into a co-worker in the hallway, an apology is in order. But too many people apologize every time they open their mouths at the office. Perhaps these preambles sound familiar: “This may be a dumb idea, but…” “I’m not sure this will work, but…” “I’m sorry if someone else already thought of this…” Not only do these statements dull the impact of whatever comes after it, but the long-term effects can be enormous. Co-workers and higher-ups will dismiss you as ineffective, annoying, and, well, not very bright. This can affect your chances of promotion and limit your earning power. Do I have your attention now?

It’s natural to want to protect your ego in case your idea isn’t met with kudos, but even if it falls flat, you need to remember not to take a dismissal of your idea as a dismissal of you. It’s not personal; it’s business. Next time you have a great suggestion, tamp down your natural tendency to apologize in advance for wasting their time. Keep it simple. “What if we…?” “I’d like to try…” “Have you considered the benefits of…?” Simply injecting a dose of confidence into your presentation will immediately add more weight to your ideas. It may take a while to rebuild your credibility with your colleagues, but a steady diet of confident contributions will eventually pay off in a tangible way.

The State of Undress at the Office

When you’re watching a movie or TV show that features an office scene with men and women in suits, do you snort and think, “Nobody in my office dresses that way”? If so, you’re not alone. People are dressing down more these days—and not just on Casual Fridays. I’m married to a guy who still wears a suit and tie to work every day. And while he often complains about it, he wouldn’t have it any other way. He’s the boss, and he knows his snazzy appearance projects an important image to his employees.

I, on the other end of the spectrum, got into some really bad habits years ago at a job. After being there (“there” being a publishing firm) for six years, I was so secure in my position that I convinced myself that an outfit most people would wear to exercise in was office-appropriate. I was in a creative field, I told myself, so I was simply expressing my individualism. Yeah, right. I had gotten lazy. Not surprisingly, about a year after I had adopted this comfy yet completely unprofessional wardrobe, I convinced myself that I wasn’t going anywhere in that job, and I quit.

What you wear to work has a direct impact not only on how other people perceive you, but on how you perceive yourself. It’s the power of suggestion. If you dress professionally, you’ll act like a professional. Guess how people tend to act if they dress  like a slob?

If you don’t believe me, try a little experiment. Start dressing for work again—really going all out in your professional appearance. You’ll probably get comments the first few days such as “What’s the occasion?” or “My, aren’t we dressed up today?” Just smile and ignore it. See if you work a little harder at your desk, network a little more, press for more face time with your boss or in-person meetings with clients. I guarantee that you’ll feel better about yourself and your performance—and your boss is certainly going to notice.

3 Ways to Deal with Difficult Coworkers

There is one in every office. One individual always sticks out from the others as being difficult to work with, difficult to get along with or just simply unpleasant to be around. That person can ruin the workday for others and his or her bad attitude can rub off on those around. However, if you know how to deal with difficult coworkers, you will stand out for your strong people skills.

•    Be upbeat, smile and say hi to your difficult coworker. Expect the other person to react the same way. If they do not, keep on smiling.
•    Limit interactions with the person. Keep it professional and friendly when you must work together, but keep it short also. The fewer interactions you have, the less chance he or she will ruin your workday.
•    Don’t talk to others at work about the situation, as it will make you appear petty.
•    Remain professional, remember that you do not need to like everyone you work with and they don’t need to like you. You just need to be mature enough to work together when necessary regardless.
•    If the difficult coworker is someone you work with regularly or closely, you may want to have a private conversation with him or her about the situation. This is especially important if you previously had a good relationship and now do not. There may be an underlying problem that you are not aware of.

Whether dealing with a coworker who is difficult with everyone or just difficult with you, it takes finesse and professionalism. Handling such a person in the right way gives you a chance to shine.

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